A few months back, I was contacted by a writer doing an AP story on how couples have honored lost loved ones during their weddings. At first, I wasn't sure how to go about it, but then I remembered not only a majority of our couples struggling with this, but even my now husband and I as well. I agreed to do it, as I have seen so many different ways that loved ones had been honored, I felt it could only help couples that were having trouble with this as well, and needed ideas on how to best honor their specific loved ones, and what worked for them and their family. You can read the full article here.
As I said in the article, there isn't a right or wrong way to do this. Some couples have chosen to only do it privately, as it might be too painful for them or another family member. Either way, it is important to have that conversation with your own families and see what works for you.
My husband and I personally honored many loved ones at our wedding, as their names were printed on the program and read after a poem during the ceremony. I kept a piece of my grandmother close to me on the day by wearing her diamond pinkie ring that I was given after she passed away. It was nice to have something to look at throughout the day and be reminded that she was a part of it.